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Yes there are abusive women!
The story started with: a wife slugged her husband
in the jaw while he was driving on the freeway.
Important things to know about domestic violence.
Cynthia Morrow, Psy.D Wrote this below.
The abused husband should know that the situation
will escalate.
The type of anger she displayed is is never about
the issue. This is about the release of pent-up
anxiety in the abuser. The abuse will escalate
because it takes more and more anger and violence to
get the abuser to the physical release she needs.
Think of cocaine and how the "high" keeps demanding
larger and larger doses of the drug, and you get the
picture. That is why we call such people "rageaholics".
It goes on to say....the abusers may try anger
management classes but will not continue with them
because they don't want to change. She has what she
wants____a victim upon whom to focus her rage in
order to get release. That is why so many abusers
cry and feel loving toward their victims afterward.
They are not remorseful, but momentarily grateful
for the short-lived end of their own terrible
anxiety, most often caused by feeling insecure and
out-of-control about their lives. They will use
their victims again and again when the anxiety
returns.
Abuse of this sort is an addiction. The children are
being emotionally harmed every time they see and
hear their father abused. He should gather them up
and leave, or make sure that his wife does--without
the children. Neither he or his children are safe.
What is to prevent her from driving her family into
oncoming traffic next time, picking up a weapon, or
in his absence, abusing the children when she needs
to feel in control again?
The loss of her husband, children and home might
convince her to give up her addiction. Even them,
however, there are no guarantees.
This article is short but tells a lot about abusers
and well worth reading. |
